BREAK UP

Break Up – To begin with I am referring this term to a break up in a romantic relation. I recently watched this movie Break-up starring Vince Vaughn & Jennifer Anniston. I never really intended to watch the movie but as my friend called me to, we went to one movie hall at malad west. Even though the movie hall was a bit old fashioned and out dated but anyways it was playing the movie, the sound was a problem coz in between we could not hear the dialogues clearly but still the movies went on for around 1.45 hrs.

I and my friend settled ourselves for the movie with some hot corn and pop corn. The movie started typically showing some romantic scenes of the couple which is into a live-in relation and later they face a lot of differences between eachother, even thought they love eachother, its hard for themselves to accommodate together, finally the outcome is Break-up. They just decide they can’t live together any further.

But are break ups easy.

Like the movie Chalte Chalte…where again Rani and Shahrukh get married. They are madly in love but then they have differences in this relation. The title song in the movie Chalte Chalte is simply amazing. It goes something like this “Pyar humko bhi hai pyar tumko bhi hai, toh yeah kya silsile ho gaye….bewafa tum nahi bewafa hum nahi toh yeah kya faasle ho gaye…..chalte chalte kaise yeah faasle ho gaye…kya patha kaha hum chale” These lines mean so much its like we love eachother but why cant we accept eachother and accommodate ourselves with the likes and dislikes of the other person. Why does it get so difficult sometimes for two individuals to compromise some things in life? Is it the Ego, the Attitude one wants to show to prove one’s superiority over the relationship, what are we getting in return loosing the person we actually have loved.

But yes maybe sometimes you have really chosen someone wrong in your life, maybe this person never seemed to have understood you. I always felt that if we love someone, even if that person hurts us, he or she loves us, but if that hurting process is infinite, its always hurting you now and then, then maybe its not love. If someone loves you they can’t hurt us often and keep us unhappy

Sometimes there must be a break up if the relationship is only heading to hurting eachother, the change is required. Its ofcourse difficult to go through the breakup pain, but then life goes on. Maybe you would become a better person who knows. So if things aren’t working just leave them and go on. Maybe something better would work out, then dragging oneself into an ended relationship.

SUNDAY FREAKOUT

It was weekend and as usual I was planning ways to pass it…..on Saturday I did nothing much….just went out saw a few houses at malad and then in the evening went out with my friend rajeshree....we went out partied and came back late……but I don’t know on Sunday I woke up very early, compared to another Sunday…..so then I decided to get my laptop repaired….but the shop was closed….so I went to my atya’s house…..she stays close by to my place……I went there at around 11.00am…..to my surprise another cousin also of mine was there……she had dropped in from Mangalore….she is quite elder to me…..so I was not very happy to see her……my atya had made poha….we had the delicious poha and tea……after that just was watching tv….Rang de Basanti was playing…..it was a amazing movie…..after sometime was lunchtime…..I was getting bored to eat at atya’s place as they are doing shravan…were they don’t eat non-veg….so I asked my cousin asmita to come out for lunch, she’s my atya’s daughther just started 1st year college…..she agreed to come out with me…..we decided to go to Pizza Hut…..

We left on my scooty…to chakala…..but I didn’t feel like eating there…so I decided to take her to Hiranandani Pizza hut……as I had not been to that place since longtime…..which earlier used to be my frequent freak out…..as it was noon time…there was not much of traffic and the weather also was pleasant….we had a nice ride…..as I was crossing powai…I don’t know but I was feeling very happy…as I am coming back someplace very dear to my heart……we reached Hirnandani Pizza Hut….had mast spicy chicken pizza, cheese garlic bread and cola…..then after that….I told my cousin I will take her around the place…..first we crossed by Hiranandani gardens…..then galleria…it was a amazing place to hang out…..then we crossed through Aura…..its a cool place too…..then from there…..we passed by DMart….I used to shop a lot of chocolates there…..then from there was the Go-carting place…..its a nice place to view Hiranandani…then from there this amazing building……Fairmont…..but I could not go on top there….as now they have increased the security there……after that we took a turn where there is this joggers park coming up…..from there is a small fountain like place……I showed my cousin the widest building in HN…..then from there we crossed by the reliance web world where you get nice coffee….after that we crossed by HN school…where again it’s a nice place to walk…..after the two restaurants…..Utsav and China valley and finally passing by Café Coffee day….ended the journey of HN……from there way back we passed through powai lake…saw hotel renaissance from there…which is nice view…..it was so nice to be back there…..it was a place where lot of my memories are attached…….

Then finally after this ride we went back to Vile Parle……then my cousin’s birthday gift was pending….so I took her shopping….after that went back to my atya’s house…..then had a cup of tea….as usually my atya’s house there were some guest for the evening tea….after that….my atya had to go to Hutch Shop….so took her there….and also to some other places where she had some work…..finally came to her place…had dinner…..and came back to my flat…..overall I had a nice day……where many things started off quite unexpected……

Marriages????

The first thing when I think of the term “marriage” is that are marriages made in heaven as they say and also that someone, somewhere, someplace is made for all of us......we just need to wait for that someone to come into our lives…..even I am waiting for that special someone….I think the toughest decision in anybody’s life is to select a life partner because we need to live our entire life with this person and once we decide on this there is no looking back….its harder then anything else and only 50% of the decision is in our hands and the rest 50% on the person we are planning to get married to…its harder then any exams we give coz in that atleast we get the marks we actually deserve and examinations are very predictable…but marriages are very unpredictable we really don’t know where with whom we would end up with…..its not necessary that we get married to that one person we would be happy all are lives……there are both sides for this also the good and bad side…..but this marriage stuff is very difficult…..many people take a very quick decision on this and some take a long time to decide….but whatever be our outlook its always one sided and the other side together can only get to one unanimous decision…..so marriages are actually depended on fate and destiny…..we just need to wait for the right time to come…..

DECISION...

Decision has to be taken by each person one day or the other, some people start taking decisions at an early age and some a little later, but all of us have to make decisions no matter what. Decision is nothing but to make a choice. Like one kid was asked to take a decision at the age of 10 whether he wanted to continue in Hindi medium school or switch to English medium. I was pretty shocked to know that, but yes the kid took a decision to switch to English medium and was also successful in this decision. So I believe to take a decision is not confined to anybody’s age, it’s the maturity level which is counted. Some people can never take any decision, also if they take a decision they cannot stick to it, then its not a strong decision, it’s a weak decision, any decision to be taken must be a strong decision, this again relates to the personality of a person, whether he is totally sane to take a decision or is insane. Like today I need to take a decision whether I have to marry or not, I am still confused with what kind of a guy, is a decision which is important, but still I am not finding the right answer to what kind of a person can really keep me happy. But I very well know that once I make up my mind strong then only I can stick to any decision I have made, and would reflect my maturity. Another thing is any decision we take we need to strongly stick to it and be firm, then it would have value and we will get a focus in going further, so the ultimate thing is there must be control over our own mind and everything’s there in the mind!!!

Please Leave Me Alone….

The World is so huge, filled with millions of people around us and yet I want to be left alone…..recently I felt that ….I am tired of helping people and living my life for others and I want to live my own life and I want to be left alone…..I didn’t understand that first but now even I feel that taking anyone’s responsibility is not easy…….when someone is depended on us and then we need to be responsible for that person then life gets very difficult, first of all you have your own worries then added on that we have others worries added to our own…..so life gets all the more difficult……so the best part is that…just move out of all these tensions….these added responsibilities……don’t give anyone a chance to be so much depended on you that you need to carry the burden of their responsibilities also on your head…..I believe happy are those people who live for themselves primarily and then look at others……Its like if you feel like helping someone, without that person asking you for help then its not a burden or responsibility…in such a way you feel happy to help someone and also feel satisfied with what you are doing…..or else you need to run away from this world if you are already burdened with a million responsibilities…there are a very few people who would selflessly take up others responsibility on there head and be happy…..so the main funda here is Leave me Alone and let me be…..

One Beautiful Moment

This is one of my recent experience I had......I left to go to my hometown Belgaum.....I had to take a flight from Mumbai to Belgaum...it got cancelled and then I had to go home....my mom wanted to see me...she was not keeping to well and so then I decided to take a flight from Mumbai to Goa.....and then my journey began.....it was at 1.00 pm...the flight reached goa till 2.30pm......it was delayed due to some technical reasons.....then I took a pre-paid taxi to Panjim and rushed to the local Bus stop where I would get buses to reach Belgaum.....I had enquired from many of my friends how fast can I reach belgaum from Goa.....but there was no easy way out.....I had to spare around 4-5 hrs.....I decided to take the Chorla Ghat.....the conductor said the bus would take 5hrs to reach belgaum.....i was not very happy but.....I had to reach home......the bus left at sharp 3.30 pm......luckily the climate in Goa was good....coz it was raining....my bus journey started......and as it was a Govt bus......it stopped everywhere as it could.....it was moving at a moderate speed...then we left goa and started the Chorla Ghat.......its a very long ghat for around 1.5hrs....and it was beautiful.......it was surrounded by forests and as it was raining...it was green and every 2 feet there were small and big water falls........looking at that beautiful scenary I just forgot all my tensions and was amazed and happy........I was wondering how can things be so naturally beautiful.....they say we need to go to heaven to see the beauty......but for me this was like heaven........I didn’t realize how my time was going.......in between the bus stopped for tea at a small hotel......it was between the forests and the climate was so good.......I went there and ordered for coffee and had one wada pav and kanda bhaji...it was too awesome to eat that stuff there........slowly my destination was nearing......I was also eagerly waiting to reach home........but still hoping that I stay in this beautiful place forever.......I reached belgaum in the evening at 8.30sharp....my brother came to pick me up and then I went home.......my mother was relieved to see me and then I was happy to be home.......and also had a great journey back home.......